When people see me in public with my double stroller toting my 18-month old identical twin girls the comments start coming. Everyone is either related to a twin, they are a twin, they know twins, or they are just fascinated by twins. THEN, they see my oldest daughter walking beside me and they gasp at the thought of THREE GIRLS and the comments shift. This back and forth banter has become very routine:
1st comment: “I hope you’re saving up for the weddings!”
(This is true because I actually wanted to elope, but ended up having a super small wedding at my husband’s request… the things we do for love.)
2nd comment: “Wow, the teen years are going to be rough!”
My response: “You’re probably right, and I am up for the challenge!”
My retort: “Yes, I do. My hands are full of love.”
Having three girls may seem like someone’s worst nightmare, but I absolutely LOVE it. During every pregnancy I have been pretty vocal about wanting a healthy baby (or babies), but really wanting girls.
Let me break it down for you.
4 Things I Look Forward to With My Girls
1. The hormonal teenage years
“What?!?” you gasp? Yes, I really do like a challenge! Moreover, I really remember what it was like to feel as though the world was ending EVERY. MINUTE. OF. EVERY. DAY. I am not afraid of crazy hormonal adolescents. I am here to shepherd my girls through everything from pimples to their first heartbreak. Every experience will be an opportunity for me to teach them new skills and coping mechanisms as they enter the part of their lives where they start to figure out who they really are, what they believe, and ultimately become the amazing individuals they are destined to be.
With this said, I know I am not the only person influencing who they become. Social scientists and child psychologists will say parents are the main influencers in their children’s lives, until around age 12 (thank you puberty!), then their peer group takes over.
So what’s a well-meaning mama to do? Ensure my girls are surrounded by awesome young ladies, much like themselves! Where do I find such female empowerment and awesomeness? The Girl Scouts!
In Girl Scouts, girls discover the fun, friendship and power of girls together. Girl Scouting helps “girls develop their full individual potential (as the mama of identical twin girls, individuality is very important); relate to others with increasing understanding, skill and respect; develop values to guide their actions and provide the foundation for sound decision-making; and contribute to the improvement of society through their abilities, leadership skills and cooperation with others.”
All of this sounds pretty darn fantastic to me, and if my girls are exposed to just a little bit of this, it’s a good thing.
I know you can’t wait to see your daughter shine too! Click the picture below or journey over to gsneo.org/mom to start her adventure today.
In reality, I love the experience of being outdoors. I find a lot of spirituality in nature, so I hope to share this with my daughters too. The Girl Scouts kicks this up a notch too.
My husband and I are campers. We are not glampers, nor do we rent a cabin with all the modern amenities of our regular house. I like to go as rustic as possible and experience hard-core camping with just a tent, the ability to make a fire, and my wits. Okay, we pack food and sleeping bags, etc. but communal lavatories are optional (too much info?)!
Camping with the Girl Scouts means my girls will not only learn to build a campfire (s’mores are one of my all-time favorite treats!), pitch a tent, or canoe across a lake, but they will have the opportunity to go horseback riding, rock climbing, and practice archery (who doesn’t want to pretend to be Katniss Everdeen?). In addition, there’s a ropes course, zip lining, and maybe a week-long back-country trek! How do I sign-up?!
3. Traveling with my girls
It’s no secret; my kiddos are still pretty little. My oldest daughter is going to be 4 years old in a few months and I know she’s already a fan of taking trips. Upon getting in the car she’ll ask if it’s going to be a LOOOONG car ride (indicating we’re taking a trip) and then I say we’re just going to run an errand five minutes away. Still, I’m proud to say my daughter had a passport with a stamp in it before she was a year old. Life has gotten logistically more challenging with the addition of the twins. I would love to take international jaunts, but packing car seats for three kids, a double-stroller, and two pack ‘n plays for an international flight is not so easy.
So, once my little ladies are a bit older (at least potty trained!), I will fully encourage giving in to our family travel bug and take as many trips as possible. I personally feel like you really learn a lot about yourself (and sometimes others) when you leave your comfort zone and take a trip.
One thing I am not super psyched about will be planning the logistics of these future trips. This is where Girl Scouts Destinations can do the heavy lifting. They plan trips for the girls all over the world! Yes please! I wonder how I can become a chaperone.
4. Help my girls live at the epitome of their happiness quotient
I want to avoid the pitfall of thinking I know what would make my kids happy. I do not definitively know what brings them joy, and I cannot guess what it’ll be in the future. I can ask them, but my 18 month old twins are not forming sentences yet and my 3 year old will tell me she’s happiest when mama and daddy are home from work (an easy thing to achieve). Their happiness quotient is pretty easy to fulfill right now, but as they get older, their growth and development will require more than the support I can provide them. I truly believe it takes a village and Girl Scouts does a great job “helping girls discover their strengths, passions, and talents.”
This is the tagline of my blog, but it rings true every day of my life. I am not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. We are each responsible for our own happiness, but I am in the extremely unique position to help my girls along their journey in life.
It is the Girl Scouts of Northeast Ohio’s mission to build girls of courage, confidence, and character who make the world a better place. Where do I sign up?!