January 1 rolls around and the start of a New Year means a new you, right?! Eh… maybe not. If you talked to me 10 years ago, you would have seen someone telling themselves tomorrow is when I start my “serious” weight loss plan. Like so many, January 1 marked the year of finally getting to a certain number on the scale. This didn’t work, I relied on Weight Watchers to lose baby weight, and now I’m going it alone <<gasp!>> program free! So far, so good… still, a new year should not mark a moment to change who we are. How often do people magically change who they are because their calendar flipped to a new page? Let’s think about what we want to do more of.
My 3 Big New Year’s Resolutions
Be more like Amy Schumer.
What more is there to say about Amy Schumer than simply, I like her a lot? I think she’s incredibly down to earth, honest and unapologetic. I would like to be all these things too! I would probably be friends with her if given the opportunity because she fits my criteria!
My favorite inspiring quotes from Amy Schumer:
“I have a belly. And I have cellulite. And I still deserve love.”
This reminds me to truly understand my body is just the way I get from place to place, it is not who I am. Having a belly does not mean I am any less awesome.
“For women, we’re taught to eat less until we disappear. And trained to believe that if you don’t look like everyone else, then you’re unlovable. And men are not trained that way.”
True that sista!
“No, I’m not going to apologize for who I am, and I’m going to actually love the skin that I’m in. I’m not gonna be striving for some other version of myself.”
There is no perfect. What are we chasing after for our future selves? Who I am today is awesome.
“I am not who I sleep with. I am not my weight. I am not my mother. I am myself.”
Own who you are at your core, and don’t listen to what other people tell you about who you are. It’s annoying and old. Enough!
“I am a hot-blooded fire and I am fearless.”
Listen to my gut more often.
We have those moments we feel something should go a certain way, and it doesn’t. When did things turn? What should I have done differently? When this happens to me, I usually end up thinking back on the moment something inside of me said to go in one direction, but it was just easier (in the moment) to do the opposite… and now I’m paying for it. I would like to reduce the number of times I kick myself in the butt for not listening to my gut and do what I thought I should in the first place, even if it’s harder, more uncomfortable, possibly cringe-worthy embarrassing.
Live my life FREE of excuses.
I am a big believer in actions speak louder than words. I think words are powerful, but what you actually DO is much more meaningful. In any given situation, I try not to use excuses because I think they are veiled attempts at making me feel better about my actions. The honest truth is I’m probably only going to do something if I really want to. The exceptions are my husband (because he’s my best friend and the most amazing grown-up person I know) and my girls. I would do anything for them even if I don’t want to (within reason). The easiest example is RSVPing to an event. People will say they cannot make it to a get together because they have another conflict or they just give a million weak excuses. Honestly, if I really truly want to do something, I will. I’ll move heaven and earth to do it. If I don’t want to do something, I’m not going to create an elaborate web of reasons why, I would rather be honest (not brutal) and say, “Unfortunately, I’m not available” and leave it there. I don’t need to provide a long list of reasons. The real reason is because it’s not my priority. My priorities vary from just needing some time to myself, having other tasks I really need to get done (which could be as simple as grocery shopping or doing laundry), or I simply want to spend some quiet time with my family in the comfort of my own home. There is no “good enough” excuse and people are going to think what they want. I making the resolution to live my life without making excuses for doing exactly what I want to do.