My mind is guilty of jumping to conclusions, passing judgment and making assumptions. How often do you see someone who is pretty and thin and think skinny bitch? What has this woman done to warrant such a moniker from me – exist in my presence? I’m going to invest my thoughts and energy on the people who matter in my life…
I often hear, “Well you are lucky, you have easy kids.” I think there’s more to it than luck, it’s where I set my expectations and I look for the positive in every situation. I also try to tune in to what my kids needs are and what they are trying to communicate. Every baby has their own way of telling you what they want and what works for them.
My toddler looks disheveled, completely inappropriate for the season, and like she’s been electrocuted (crazy curly hair she refuses to let style), but she’s happy and I don’t care. Now, when it comes to giving me attitude (which she’ll do on occasion), hitting or misbehaving at the dinner table, I jump into action. Consistent parenting is hard, but being a consistent parent will help you avoid getting smacked! This is how we stop bad behaviors.
I was recently asked who my social supports in the community are, and I paused. I expected to rattle off a list of extended family but our parents and siblings live hundreds of miles away in different states. It takes a village to raise a child and I have been blessed to find family even though we have moved far away.
Positive parenting has provided me with the skills to discipline and reward good behavior for my three young children without getting upset or frustrated. There are only 2 tools I use in my parenting toolbox and they are incredibly effective and magical! I never yell, threaten, or bribe and my toddlers are well-behaved!
My girls are “good eaters” in the sense they eat a large variety of food. They are fruit and veggie lovers and if there is a food they initially cringe at, nine times out of ten, I can persuade them to at least taste it… There is no magic to this, and I certainly do not pretend to know it all. I just know what works well for me and after being told “Wow, your girls eat everything” so many times, I figure it was time to share what has worked so well for us.
I know I am not a perfect eater and I do not create the perfect home eating environment…Overall, this is just about enjoying life with my kids and food is a big source of enjoyment and family time in my home… this is where I share my secrets to help your toddler eat healthy foods too.
Conflict resolution is a not just for the professional world – I use it all the time to avoid feeling annoyed in my personal life. Value Mining helps me understand why I’m annoyed in the first place.
I go grocery shopping once every two weeks. Yes, it’s true. I do not step foot into a grocery store (if I can help it) but twice a month. Also, I avoid the nightly question of “What’s for dinner? And do we have the ingredients?” It’s one less thing to stress over at the end of the day. You, too, can plan healthy meals, shop the sales to save some money and feel like you’re doing something good for your family while making your life a little easier.